How do you know you’ve met the one?

How do you know you have met the one? As in the “one” you will marry for life!

“I guess when you’re young, you just believe there’ll be many people with whom you’ll connected with. Later in life, you realize it only happens a few times.”

Quoted from Celine in Before sunset

But it’s possible that there are several “ones,” despite your skepticism. Getting older can help you put your ideals in perspective, for sure. You can meet many people but in the end, end up with your reality rather than your dream.

Furthermore, the answer of “how do I know…” is different for everyone — but first you should be reminded of the difference between love and marriage.

You do not have to be in love to be married nor date with the intention to fall in love.  

Love is not a decision, but marriage is a choice. Love is an attraction. Love should be romantic, fun, flirty, and makes you happy. Love can last an eternity, but Marriage is a commitment, that doesn’t have to last forever.

The Stakes Are High!

If you’re too picky, and find yourself disappointed with your lack of romantic or physical interest in someone, it’s at this point you secretly question whether or not you should lower your standards since, after all, perhaps “the one” doesn’t exist.  

But if you are “too open” you may end up compromising on your principles and ethics. 

This makes dating appear risky, so many individuals avoid courting or act on impulse because they want big changes quickly as they are weary of experiencing the same results. 

Dating can be rough. But dating is a gamble. We put our trust in the other person and wait to see if we are rewarded.  

The “Meet Cute”

In films, the initial meeting is called “meet cute.” It is the first connection that is entertaining or endearing between two characters that causes them to start dating.

How will I know?

And, it is at this point some people do want that feeling. They want to imagine themselves and their future spouse together for years after their first meeting. 

And maybe it is at that then that you might know.

But let’s look at some other examples.  

Visions, signs, and asking God

When we are uncertain, some people pray and ask their God to intervene and send them a message. Alongside prayer, people fast to allow for clarity and messages to come through. But many of those people who heard “get married”—that’s “the one”—are now divorced. 

Nevertheless, you too, as already mentioned, could have a glimpse, a vision, an insight, and see your future children with this person. In years to come, see yourselves being full of happiness together. Or you can see the ups and downs of your journey together, and that’s your sign. 

It feels like having a premonition. 

However, it does not have to be a premonition but a feeling that this person will be a good mother or father. Someone you would like to raise your kids with  

You Do Not Have to Love nor Fancy your Partner the First Time You Meet!

Meeting your future spouse, being together, or falling in love can take a long time. Firstly, one or both of you can have unrealistic expectations of your ideal mate. Secondly, because one or both needs to grow up which helps to make a long-lasting relationship work.

Love Can Take Time!

Thirdly, although many people know they are in love, they are also in denial. 

Either way, beforehand, get yourself in the proper frame of mind. If you are not paying attention to what you want, the person of your dreams could be standing right in front of you. 

Men take an average of 88 days (about three months) to tell their partner they love them, whereas women take an average of 134 days (four and a half months), according to a 2013 survey.

YouGov and eHarmony. 

Nevertheless, it could take months, years, or decades to know someone is right for you because people change as do you.

We liked each other, so I knew!

If both sides want to be together and enjoy each other’s company, you’ll feel like you’re meant to be, especially if there were many reasons you shouldn’t be, and it really can be that simple. 

If you’ve never googled, how do you know you’ve met the one? Until now, you might have just met the one! 

There are several ways to recognize the one, like if you have never googled “have I just met the one” until now, you may be onto something.

They make you want to be a better person!

One of my clients said, he said “I made him want to be a better person!” 

We have our faults, and we both knew it, but I also made him want to do more for the relationship, especially when I fell pregnant early when we were just dating. He felt responsible for our wellbeing and future and seeing me give birth and be a mother made him see me in a way he had never seen anyone before. 

We Were Ready!

When the time is right, you will both or at least one of you will feel “it’s time,” time to settle down with each other. It will be a feeling, not simply because the clock is ticking, but just a knowing.

According to Astrology

When it comes to meeting the one, it is best to look at transits, solar returns, and progressions, including converse progressions. You will also want to see a series of eclipses in your 7th and 1st houses. And an active 5th and 7th house of slow-moving planets (Uranus, Neptune, and or Pluto). 

As for progressions and converse progressions, the sun or the moon is in the 7th or the 5th. The sun or moon progressed into Libra, Leo, Cancer, and to a lesser degree, sun and or moon in Taurus. 

A progression chart is another type of chart than a natal chart. 

Natal charts show the planets frozen in time from the moment you are born. Transits show current moving planets in a chart. Whereas, progressed planets move more slowly. Progressed charts are the practice of projecting a person’s birth or natal chart into the future, starting from the moment of birth or the beginning of the project. And one day’s worth of events years can be mapped out to one year’s worth of events. 

Give it a shot!

Either way, you will never know until you take a risk , put yourself out there, and give it a shot.

When we allow ourselves to fall in love with someone, we are surrendering part of ourselves. And revealing our beliefs and making our hearts vulnerable.

Anyway, saying “I don’t know if this is the one, but I want to move forward with this one” is also acceptable.