“I don’t trust my boyfriend” 😩 

Why is there such a lack of trust?

Do you not trust him because he has cheated or has let you down in the past? Is it because he’s hiding his emotions, and that he’s struggling to be honest?

If the former, giving your cheating partner a second chance can be tempting, especially if the affair started innocently or if he gave you an honest explanation for his actions. That said, if you suspect that he is cheating, it can be hard to shake.

Of course, you may say that he can change even if he has been deceitful. Still, we must judge people based on their present actions rather than pinning hopes on what we think someone could be.

On the other hand, what if you are insecure because of a past relationship or you have watched someone go through anxiety and uncertainty about their relationship, causing fear in your own?

Sometimes your fears have nothing to do with anything apart from being with someone that pretends to be okay all the time. But a person who suppresses their emotions can feel like they are living a lie. So you can think about how he is lying by not opening up his feelings and begin to wonder what else is he lying about.

Do you want a pretender?

When you have someone in your life who claims to be exactly who they are, accept them. Still, suppose you cannot handle this person’s personality, changeability, and the uncertainty connected with that person. In that case, it’s best to consider moving on.

But first, acknowledge your insecurities. Then, talk about how you feel and see what you can both do to relieve your fears. Thus, communication is fundamental, but the interaction must go both ways.

If you cannot get your partner to understand, you may have to get someone to reword or mediate what you are feeling.

Communication can also involve having self-talk to drown out the negative chatter in your mind.