How to be strong 💪 after a break-up? 

It’s not easy to be strong after a break-up, but you need to dig deep inside yourself to access your inner strength.

Why Do You Want To Be Strong?

Are you asking how to be strong to avoid breaking down? Or are you asking for strength because you want to stop yourself from reaching out to them first?

When someone you care about suddenly loses interest, it can be a painful experience. Possibly, your significant other has mentioned that they feel the need to travel.

If you’re heartbroken because your ex-partner wanted to focus on their work or, for no apparent reason, lost interest, for example, by not contacting you. You might tell yourself that one way to remain strong is to try and maintain contact or, even worse, a friendship.

However, you should have received the closure you believe you needed when you were broken up with. Like when the messaging stopped. Basically, their action should have been your closure. You should not wanted to be with someone that did not treat you right or does not want to fully commit to you.

To Be or not to Be? That is the question:

Of course, you could be in the mindset of thinking you will be stronger if you remove sexual romantic feelings by being friends. But can you really handle friendship if you are most likely still in love?

Although keeping regular contact might help you get through it, the whole thing can be draining on you both.

You will both be going through a lot, and one way you can help the other is by giving each additional space to reflect and grow.

Nevertheless, walking away from unhappiness allows you to find yourself and see things from a new, positive perspective.

After you feel yourself pulling away, remember that this is what you need to do to make yourself happy. To know yourself. Know your needs.

Eliminating him from everything might be the trick to helping figure things out.

If you try and rekindle and you end up going back, you mostly spend time walking on eggshells because you will fear being dumped once again. Or you will show low-level contempt for the other party because of how you were treated.

So, stop thinking that you must remain friends for at least the first year after the breakup. However, try and stay respectful and expect to be treated with the same level of respect, but do not overthink your relationship status as just friends.

Don’t kid yourself!  

Thinking things can eventually change into something more committed if you stay in touch is potentially dangerous.

Even if he tries to contact you after a period of silence, try and wait before you respond to get your act together.

“Moment of Weakness!” 

We all have our moments of weakness. But, wanting to be in the know, to be around them when, in reality, you are in agony and need your space, can actually be your moment of weakness!

Acceptance

Thus, you must practice acceptance of the current situation without heavily blaming either party.

Acceptance does not mean you can never reconnect, but just come to terms with the reality of what is occurring now.

Reach out to yourself rather than trying to maintain communication with the other person. And by reaching out to you, it simply means the INNER YOU, the part of you that needs healing.

Acceptance can also mean that you accept that you may not behave in a manner that displays strength. Don’t be ashamed of crying and needing time to grieve your loss; the loss of your hopes, wishes, and dreams.

There will be times when you may still message and try to initiate contact, and although not admirable, it is expected. Most people in your situation are trying to maintain contact.

“You Shall Rise!” 

Accept that the sun will come up tomorrow and so shall you. And what you might be experiencing is a loss of control.

Therefore, you must recognise that you can only control your actions, and if you care for the other person, you need to let them be, and give them time to think things over. To miss you and to heal themselves.

“It takes strength to walk away”  

If it was meant to be, it will be!

If someone does not want you, have you settled too quickly? Is there something you missed about the person’s character?

Perhaps you are naturally a person that puts others before yourself. You were too accommodating. Maybe you had not explored all that life had to offer?

So, you might had not met someone who appreciates your worth, but if you don’t recognize your own worth, they won’t bother looking for it.

Rather than just being with someone superficial, try and be with someone with whom you can have an open and honest conversation about your differences and still have a deep sense of belonging.

Even though you may have times of self-doubt and loneliness, having close family and friends, as well as being financially secure, can all help you get through these difficult times more quickly.

Your confidence can skyrocket by deciding to formulate a plan to move forward and execute that plan.

Self-check ins! 

Make a commitment to yourself without the interference or influence of anyone else. Although some folks say it is selfish to give too much attention to yourself, you need to build up your psychological strength, self-belief, and self-confidence by having positive self-talk.

Ask yourself what else you want from life. How can you change parts of your own unwanted behaviour?

Who could you support?

Yes, you can also help people that are going through the same thing as you.

How to make yourself stronger in addition to above  

1. Become an agony aunt of some sort by starting a blog to offer support to those in the same place as you. Join a blog to vent or join an online group where you can find people experiencing the same pain as you.

2. Be open to being vulnerable. If your ex is a person of compassion, talk openly to him about your inability to handle the separation. That you are trying to figure out how to move on.

3. Keep a journal and have regular self-talk out loud. Journaling and talking out loud gets everything out of your mind and into the open.

4. When you watch someone on YouTube or another social media site, you can relate to them and get your mind off of what’s going on in your life.

5. Leave positive comments or affirmations for someone that has posted about their relationship demise.