Cancer Man

We often think of a crab living a solitary life, hiding in a discarded shell. But crabs do travel in packs. You can find them at the bottom of oceans, on sandy beaches, and on rocky terrain. But, if you are finding it hard to move beyond his Timberland-tough exterior and want to know more, read on.

Fragility

It may be hard to get beyond the ‘attraction phase’ because Cancer’s exterior is as fragile as your iPhone’s glass front—he’s more at risk from falls and drops than any other being.

As a result, he’ll be reluctant to make a move forward. He rarely initiates communication. He’s terrified you’ll smash his heart to pieces (getting rejected).

Perhaps he’s like an egg. A delicate patchwork detail. Or an enamel cookware left for long durations on flashes of intense heat. These analogies to cookware and food are more suitable. After all, his sign is akin to domesticity. He, too, is obsessed with his household and consumed with sweetly OCD thoughts about his home, family, childhood friends, and food.

The crab represents Cancer, and like the crab, Cancer-man lives in his shell. The image of the crab is hiding in their shells is a metaphor for Cancerian’s being homebodies. But he won’t live in a hovel. His abode is his haven, where he drops his guard, feeling safe to be himself.

Water Sign

Cancerians, like most water signs, find watery settings to be the most appealing, whether these activities include taking long baths, frequent visits to the Ganges, or Venice.

However, he reserves his love for his mother rather than water. If Mamma does not adore you, then know that your ship has sailed. But if he detests his mother, you might as well throw yourself off the boat.

However, his most dynamic relationship may be with food, which brings us to another way you can spot if you’re in the company of a real Cancerian. Within the first few meetings, you’ll bond over food.

Discussing each other’s appetites is the quickest way to bond with a Cancerian man. However, we’ve already warned you that he might be reluctant to speak, and your idea of flavorsome food may not be his.

How to Spot a Cancer Man

You can spot a real Cancerian through his pictures and how he approaches people. A Cancer man comes at you sideways rather than face-to-face. Remember that he’s a “crab”, and because crabs have stiff, jointed legs, they move faster and easier when walking sideways.

Similarly, he’s the guy that takes only side-profile pics instead of selfies. And most Cancer men hate wearing sneakers.

Secondly, by observing his moods. He’s cool, controlled and still. Well, that’s until a wave overtakes him. Then he’s dragged down into confusion, silence, and irritability.

Ruled by the Moon gives him a slight feminine edge. He can put on the toughest persona down to his Timberland boots, but his feminine qualities are subtle at first, but eventually show through.

You should think of a Cancer man as having two sides, whether he’s hard but gentle, rude yet funny, caring yet detached, or cold yet open.

Astrologer Jonathan Cainer says

‘[Cancers] world is divided into two sorts of people – those who don’t know quite what to make of him and those who have been fortunate enough to meet the real person]”.

Cancers of Man’s Nature

So, it’s a good sign if a Cancerian seems kind, shy, or soft-hearted at first.

However, if after 3-4 months of having regular contact (daily/weekly), he is still reserved, just move on. By the third or fourth month, he should be able to talk and feel somewhat comfortable, although he may always hide parts of his true self from you. 

Of course, it may not be his personality but rather his appearance that is at odds. Cancer man could have all the stereotypical indicators of being an alpha male: six-foot three inches, and hairier than Big Foot. But he will also look effeminate, long eyelashes and a slim build. 

The more masculine he appears, the more you will be met with an agitated man, full of fear and anxiety. But he’ll protect his emotional and personal life. If he’s unfamiliar with you, avoid asking him questions.

Although you’ll have to wait to know about him, he will want to know about you, but the crab won’t approach. He’ll stand back and observe to see if you are trustworthy of his emotions, and when he is sure of your nature, he’ll let you in.

Communication Style

Cancer men struggle with communication. The more they like an unknown person, the more A Cancer man struggles with his communication. The more he likes you, the more he shies away. Instead of talking to you directly, he’ll prefer to first listen in on your conversations. He only intercepts as part of a three-way conversation, talking to the other person only.

Because of his confidence, he will not approach you directly. He is fine with imagining love than experiencing it. But his admiration, love, and desire to have you as a lover or friend are all genuine.

But typically, you can spot a Cancer man a mile off because he is the guy talking about his ex. He’s telling you about his new life after a break up, or he’s mourning the loss of his relationship, or talking about his mother. 

Another clue is that he’s the type to sit opposite you and stare. No words, just staring.

The Stare. The gaze.

There may be the odd occasion where he’ll jump straight into a relationship, but it will be a short affair. These types of Cancerians engaging in short-term love affairs have their rising, Moon, or Venus sign in Aries or Gemini.

Be patient. Stand back because once he comes forward (more like side steps), he may smother you (although he hates being smothered).

Avoid!

As well as suffocating you, you may discover another type of Cancerian that hides vital information. For example, he tells you that his father has died. although he is alive and kicking. He spins you another tale just to test your reaction.

Avoid this type because he most likely has low self-esteem.