I really like you But…

The Deal-Breaker That Stops Relationships in Their Track

“I like you but…” Three little words that can feel like a dagger to the heart, yet they always signal the same truth: there’s one fatal flaw, one deal-breaker, one unmistakable reason why the relationship isn’t moving forward.

Whether it’s his wandering attention, his terrible music taste, or his Neanderthal friends, that “but” is the deciding factor—and as painful as it feels, it may actually be your saving grace.

It’s excruciating when you’ve been completely wrapped up in a man who turns out to be far less captivated by you than he initially led you to believe?

Even worse when you’ve poured what feels like a lifetime into it—googling his blasted star sign, pretending to care about his dreadful taste in music, tolerating his caveman-esque friends—only to find yourself without so much as the courtesy of being called “girlfriend,” let alone “fiancée.”

At that point, one is tempted to simply declare, to hell with him!

But truthfully, if the so-called “relationship” (and I use the term loosely) never made it past the dating stage or a few physical encounters, then consider yourself divinely protected—particularly if you couldn’t stand his social circle in the first place.

I know it can be baffling trying to grasp why he doesn’t want to take things to the next level. But perhaps the answer lies in this: women and men often move at different speeds when it comes to commitment.

We women, by and large, are fiercely loyal creatures. We know what we want long before the menfolk have even stopped dithering. Raised to nurture, we often extend devotion without receiving equal care in return.

Men, on the other hand, are frequently conditioned to carry the “I’m not ready to settle” mindset, buoyed by the belief that the world is teeming with infinite romantic upgrades just waiting to be discovered. And so they prowl, hunting for the next shiny distraction.

What they fail to realize, of course, is that there is only one you. Even if you came into the world as a twin, you remain utterly inimitable.

Lack of interested based on his sun sign

• An Aries man can become turned off if you are bossy or if you judge him. Boredom will arise if you have to plan absolutely everything. Similarly, if you are not a fit or active person, like someone who is lazy, then goodbye. Furthermore, not being good at timekeeping is another reason he is turned off.
• A Taurus man can become turned off if you are stupid and stand for nothing. He is likely to commit, but in his own time. If you are inflexible, forget it because he finds it difficult to compromise. If you always want to do something new, are highly changeable, and are in a rush, it will scare him off. If you want him to surprise you or like to surprise him, it’s a big no-no. But disloyalty is your fastest way to never hear from him again, as well as a lack of physical touch and intimacy.
• A Gemini man can become turned off if you are inflexible or clingy. Geminis’ can be fickle in love. This man might already have someone waiting in the wings. He hates structure, especially if his partner doesn’t thrill him. Trying to get him to back down from his point of view is difficult, so don’t think you know better.
• A Cancer man can become turned off if you are not grateful for all that Cancer does. Criticism is another turn-off because they are very sensitive. Although they are smothering, you can’t smother them. God forbid you mention their mother in a negative tone or even get too close too soon. Cancers are very psychic, yet their imagination can run wild. Thus, if you play mind games, mess with their emotions, or try to make them believe something that is not true, you can get the F out of the partnership.
• A Leo man can become turned off if you try and do reverse psychology on him. Ignoring him will piss him off too. Leo needs a lot of attention, but they also need time to rest, so you must learn to balance the two. Another turn-off is if you have the same personality as they do—have more of a character. If their friends don’t like you, you’ll probably be having “the talk”.
• A Virgo man can become turned off if you are critical or set impossibly high standards. Doing anything that makes him not feel confident is a big no-no. Or he can’t date someone who has too many negative thoughts. Since Virgo is ruled by Mercury, the planetary ruler of the mind, he detests someone lacking understanding and knowledge. Thus, if you appear to be out of touch with reality, he might think you will derail him from his plans, or he won’t know how to serve you best.
• A Libra man can become turned off if you are lazy. Libras are pretty productive and attract people who like the finer things in life. But he also wants a partner that either has money of their own or can budget their finances. A Libra man hates it when his lover cannot maintain appearances. He’ll despise you, disregard you, and ignore your demands. Such actions as just mentioned might suggest to him that you will fail to care for his children. And not only might you be a neglectful mother, but also a useless partner. Libra does not want to do all of the work; instead, it prefers that responsibilities be shared equally.
• A Scorpio man can become turned off if you try and misuse or abuse knowledge and power in moments of privacy. He’s scared that you will reveal his secrets. He hates lying and cheating, thinking it will neverstop. Shallowness and an overly obvious personality are not attractive to a Scorpio because they will want to dive deep. He must use his detective skills to figure you out, but he will lose interest if you are too uninteresting.
• Sagittarius man can become turned off if you are pessimistic; remember, Sagittarius is closely tied with optimism. If you keep saying the opposite things, it can wear him down; it can make him feel like his own thoughts, his own belief system, are not valued. Similarly, it will annoy him if you have no sense of direction and are uninspiring. Like most men, but slightly more, a Sag man needs someone confident, allowing him time to himself without being jealous.
• A Capricorn man can become turned off if you are not straightforward because he does not like drawing things out. Capricorn, like everyone, hates time-wasters, and unlike everyone else, their patients are limited. He is likely to commit, but on his watch. If you come between his work, ambitions, or musical taste, expect to hear “I like you but…”
• An Aquarius man can become turned off if you live in the past. Forget it if you are unwilling to experience new ideas or concepts or are open to meeting new people. Aquarius is a sign that wants the next and latest thing; they like to experiment. Basically, you need to fit into his world. Therefore, if you are too predictable and lose faith in the Aquarian Most often, an Aquarius will end up with someone that doesn’t even like them.
• A Pisces man can become turned off if he does not know where you stand, like if you are still dating other people. Pisces doesn’t like questioning a mate’s actions; he just wants peace. He needs someone interesting. In turn, it’s a must if he has a mate that trusts the Piscean. You must also be just as kind as a Pisces; if not, things will wear thin. Lastly, he’s into someone that is busy, busy, busy all the time. Rushing around here and there and everywhere, not having time for the partnership leads to a Pisces man bailing out.